One of your friends have just given birth and you’ve seen all the cute newborn photos online, everyone rushing and gushing over the new baby. But how is mom, really? Has anyone asked? Photos show her smiling and maybe slightly dazed from both pain and happiness. No one has actually asked the question - how are you coping? Here are 3 reasons why checking in to make sure your new mom friend is a-ok is so important those first few months of her new journey as a parent.
1. Because you never know
Your body is going insane with hormonal changes, you’ve just brought your baby home after having him/her in your tummy for 40 weeks, your lady parts hurt, actually everywhere hurts you don’t even know how or why. How is this not the most overwhelming experience?! Maybe new mom doesn’t even know how she feels really, but asking allows her to express her thoughts and talking it through could help her process her emotions and relief some stress from this crazy new role.
2. Let her know that getting help is ok
There is no shame in needing help and new mom needs to know that, raising a child really takes a village. With only 24 hours in a day and so many things to do for a little person, she might feel bad for palming off some responsibilities to someone else. Let her know that it’s ok and offer to help with whatever she might need. It could also be making sure that she is looked after since she might not have the brain space to think about herself.
3. Well-being of mom is always overlooked
Tiny people usually command everyone’s attention because hey, he/she is just way cute. But new mom will be tired, stressed and all over the a place for a while. Remembering to ask your friend how she really is and encouraging her will go a long way in making sure she is in a good mental state to look after her newborn. She’s also still human and needs to fill her love tank so she can love her baby too.
So don’t forget to check in on those new mom’s you know and give them plenty of love cos they always could use some.